He told me to listen to the song “With or without you” by U2. Initially, I didn’t pay much attention to the lyrics, I was enjoying the beats.
Today when I listen to that song it brings old memories of Hem. It was on this day Sept 5th that our family lost my brother-in-law Hem ( Hemant).
I remember every time I take that bend in that road in Hyderabad when my father in law in his unusual voice told me “Hem has left us”. In life, there are words and images that will live with you forever. Today when I look back at those four years I look at the courage of my in-laws and my wife and kids to cope with this setback. The loss of a member of a family is always a loss and whatever we can do to overcome that grief it will remain in their lives as a loss.
We can only imagine how “Hem” would have got married and settled in life by now. At least that was the thought in my mind today. We will miss him and will continue to miss him. Today is just another day when we relive those old memories with him and feel good that he came into our lives. I mentioned to my elder daughter in certain situations how he was in the house along with me when the rest of the members all had to go to work. Those days I had that one-off opportunity to work from home in 2009 and that is when I got to know him well. He had a way with words and I love to play with words today. He liked computer games and that I can see in my younger daughter. He loved chocolate and that I can see in my wife. He was a nice soul and that I can see in my in-laws. Let me offer our family’s 4th death anniversary of our beloved family member with this song I grieve by Peter Gabriel from City of Angels
It was only one hour ago
It was all so different then
Nothing yet has really sunk in
Looks like it always did
This flesh and bone
Is just the way that we are tied in
But there’s no one home
I grieve, for you
You leave, me
So hard to move on
Still loving what’s gone
They say life carries on
Carries on and on and on and on
He was pulled away before time !