Commitment – Fun@Family , Friends
March was a month of celebrations. As a family, we celebrated women’s day, my elder daughter’s birthday, and of course my March sales closures. Apart from that, we had our first guest from our hometown and that gave us a chance to meet up and have fun by some gossip-mongering, leg-pulling along with gastro delights.
This was also a month where girls dominated the Grammy awards; time with family ( wife, teen girl, and tween girl) dominated the maximum for me. This time for her birthday, my elder daughter had already made sure her friends were also there with us for normally a family-only dinner. She told me I know you will get along with them and she was confident. While we were having dinner at the Smokehouse I was fascinated with the type and timing of some of the songs they played. They played “burn” by Ellie Goulding, “Give your heart a break” by Demi Lovato. Was it reflecting my state of mind with my daughter and her friends? Hell No! In fact, to extend the fun we went to another cafe at midnight and I ordered a blue burry muffin and savored it like never before from Smoor. She enjoyed it and it was a smoky and “smoory” experience. I guess this must be the month I must have had the maximum calories through cakes and desserts so far.
Obstacles Treat people as human beings
The best way to escape from a problem is to solve it. I had enough of that in March. My wife called it “March Madness” from a sales closure point of view. I was extensively traveling and in a way that kept me closer to the reality of the situation and take decisions. As Ryan Holiday put it so nicely, March taught me that ” Obstacle is the way”. I also learned one important lesson to admire people as human beings and not treat them as resources. In today’s high-performance culture that is the key and sometimes when you are faced with obstacles, you have to get out of your own way and give way for someone to do the job. It’s not about ” you are right”. It is about “what is right.”
Lift me Up Walking and Writing
I identified a list of writers whom I would like to follow like Bikram Vohra’s article on “Down in the car park”, City city bang bang’s article on “overdocumented self” by Santosh Desai. I liked the way Isabel Allende described herself as a person who would like to learn to research, to conduct an interview, to use language efficiently, to trap readers’ attention, to work under pressure, to meet deadlines, to edit and correct. It resonated with me. It’s good to have role models. The question you have to ask is, ” Who are you modelling your life on ?”
For me writing and walking go together. I get a lot of ideas while walking. My walking target was set for a month as I was thinking of reducing my weight by 1kg. This month also I started noting down calorie burn figures just to make sure that I am also taking in enough calories.
They say water is the most perfect traveler because when it travels it becomes the path itself. I traveled every week in March. March 2021 can be summarised with a waterfall metaphor. It offered a lot of challenges but with the help of people around I could channel a path. I quote Terrence McKenna who gave me the language below to summarise March 2021.
“Nature loves courage. You make the commitment and nature will respond to that commitment by removing impossible obstacles. Dream the impossible dream and the world will not grind you under, it will lift you up. This is the trick. This is what all these teachers and philosophers who really counted, who really touched the alchemical gold, this is what they understood. This is the shamanic dance in the waterfall. This is how magic is done. By hurling yourself into the abyss and discovering it’s a feather bed.”
One more thing ( Made famous by Steve jobs)
In all his presentations Steve Jobs used to keep the best part for the last. He opens that segment with “One more thing…” My mother and my in-laws had their vaccination in March and they are doing fine. This is the year children followed up with their parents for vaccination till April when the tables have turned.